A dense ring of contradictions has formed around the relationship between the fair sex, confirmed by many real examples. It is believed that they are based solely on commercialism, and subconsciously friends remain rivals in all areas of their lives: from a new dress purchased to a successful opportunity to get married. There are many myths about female friendship, but I will tell you whether there is an emotional friendship between women, and how sincere their words and actions are.
What does the concept include?
In a scientific interpretation, friendship is a type of relationship that does not depend on gender and years lived, based on trust. Community of interests is fundamental. Depending on the duration, a friendship can be short, long, situational.
In simple terms, this is a relationship with a person who is ready to help always and under any circumstances, listen to problems and give objective, sincere advice. A girlfriend is not necessarily the one who is near you most of the day, but, for example, a friend who knows how to listen and understand your problems during rare meetings. If you can easily start a conversation about new things or shoes, new movies or sports news, complain about your husband or children, this is definitely a real girlfriend.
Emotional content of friendship4
Nature has given a woman the ability to deeply immerse herself emotionally in any exciting issue. For women who have friendship, communication is always filled with feelings and emotions. It is surprising that the main component of female friendship is not the solution to a specific issue, but the desire to discuss.
It is very important for any woman to be heard and receive support from her interlocutor. Unlike men's heart-to-heart conversations, women's communication has a pronounced emotional overtones. When communicating with a friend, a woman develops a trusting relationship and, above all, wants to see reciprocity.
Any friendship between two women can be compared to a tandem, in which one person takes a leading position and more often gives instructions and teachings. If the roles do not change, such a friendship can last quite a long time. If one of the girls decides to take on the role of a friend, there is a high risk of developing conflict and internal resentment. A random word, any action, a refusal or a request for help, etc. can serve to initiate a female friendship, as well as to end it.
Also, a frequent reason for a quarrel between friends can be unspoken news about something, even if it is not important. In this case, a complex of uselessness develops. Such cases often end with one of the friends completely ignoring the other, and without any explanation.
Women, by their nature, are terrible owners, and this rule applies not only to relationships with a man, but also to friendships with friends. If two girls secretly consider themselves friends and suddenly one of them does not invite the other to the company or prefers other communication, the other’s offense is inevitable.
It sounds strange, but often women’s conversations are filled with emptiness in terms of the fact that some truly significant and global things are not discussed by them. In turn, for women themselves, a heart-to-heart conversation with a friend can be compared to therapy. After all, during a conversation there is an emotional release from accumulated negativity.
From this point of view, friendship between women can be compared to the opportunity to stabilize one’s internal state. The desire to share problems and receive support in return is a definite link and warms up interest in communication between friends.
Does female friendship really exist?
Partnership between representatives of the fairer sex, as a phenomenon, still exists if:
- it began at school;
- the relationship does not interfere with the families of each of them;
- both people do not cross the line of trust;
- no one burdens the interlocutor with their never-ending problems;
- there is a similarity of characters and interests.
Whether a friendly relationship happens or not, time always shows; over the years, relationships go through various tests, strengthen or end.
INTRODUCTION
Modern empirical studies of friendly relations, within the framework of sociology, philosophy, psychology, show that friendship is a special type of interpersonal interaction, in contrast to friendship, characterized by high self-worth, boundless devotion, mutual love, mutual understanding, selflessness, depth and intimacy, selectivity and mutual sympathy.
In modern society, friendship refers to completely different types of social interactions. The most relevant in empirical studies of the phenomenon of friendship is the possibility of studying a person as a subject of interpersonal communication, endowed with freedom of choice and the right to be responsible for his actions. The attitude towards “one’s own” and “others”, awareness of the constructive and destructive constructs of personal relationships, motives and needs are the most important components of the internal, subjective world of the individual, which is revealed in full in the process of friendly communication, which determines the relevance of the chosen topic.
The object of research in this work is friendship as a psychological phenomenon.
The subject of research in this work is the psychological characteristics of friendship.
The purpose of this work is to study the psychological characteristics of friendship.
Based on the goal, within the framework of this work, the following tasks are proposed:
— studying the concept of “friendship” in psychology;
- identifying the functions of friendship;
— analysis of friendship as a form of interpersonal relationships;
— research of approaches to the study of psychological aspects of friendship;
— identification of psychological features of the formation of ideas of children of senior preschool age about each other and friendship;
— analysis of the problems of friendly relations in the system of modern interpersonal communications.
In this work, the following works were used in the field of studying the psychological characteristics of friendship: Avdulova T. P., Alberoni F., Andronnikova O. O., Gurevich P. S., Kletsina I. S., Koryagina N. A., Nikishova S. N., Osipova I. S., Rodina A. M., Chirkova T. I. et al.
The work used psychology textbooks, materials from scientific conferences and seminars on the topics studied, and materials from periodicals related to the study of friendship from the point of view of psychology.
Psychology of female friendship
In each of them, nature has laid down the ability to immerse itself in any issue on an emotional level and perceive the world around us with feelings. Conversations and listening skills are fundamental to strong friendships. It gradually reveals trust, openness and other qualities that are not inherent in the male part of the population.
Such a character trait as the desire to maintain warm relationships at any cost results in partnership without attention. So, a girl who is close in spirit can terribly irritate, betray, you can make trouble with her and still remain in the status of a friend.
Origins
Very often, there are cases when you were friends since childhood, went to kindergarten together, then school, she was always nearby and knew your secrets. Later, you entered different universities and moved to different parts of the country, continuing to keep in touch by phone. After a while, a friend decided to stop by for a visit, and you suddenly realized that a complete stranger had come to see you. You begin to feel shame for not being able to protect a valuable feeling and feel an obligation to imitate the previous pattern of behavior.
There is another option - she was always there, dropped everything when she became sad - supported. You believed that you should communicate and meet several times a week, even when hobbies, income, and worldview change. You bear the burden of responsibility, although there is no desire to go to the next meeting; in half an hour you exchange the latest news, and then you plunge into the world of the past, because there is no conversation about the present.
Why do women carry unbearable loads?
Why does friendship between girls last for years, although neither party is interested in it? This is not necessarily subconscious violence and conscientious feelings. Sometimes it’s a banal benefit, not always material; sometimes, spiritual self-affirmation is much more important than receiving financial help.
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- Some deliberately run to help in order to assert their importance.
- Others are simply interested in the company. Going to the gym, dancing or shopping on your own is not as pleasant as with a helpful advisor.
- Still others maintain friendship in a state of loneliness, but as soon as a guy appears on the horizon, they disappear.
- A special group should include young mothers who simply need to talk to someone.
- And someone wants to be themselves at least sometimes, relax, take off the mask of emotions and talk in a relaxed atmosphere, because they cannot do this at home or at work.
As practice shows, in relationships all girls try to assert themselves and prove to themselves that she is better, if not everyone in the world, but at least her friend. Upon achieving the required status and financial foundation, entering into an advantageous marriage, competition begins to decline and tends to zero.
We select friends by common interests (fitness, drawing, courses, work, or by geographic location - neighbors, colleagues, classmates), and when the connecting link falls out, it turns out that there are no more common interests. The best time to make a friend is during your student years. During this period, the personality is already formed, open to change and new emotions. Those who met at the institute have a chance for a long relationship, since consciously generated emotions are reinforced by joint experiences.
Conversations and “chatter” about nothing
Communication between girls is a therapy that helps to get rid of the negativity inside and completely stabilize the psycho-emotional state. At the same time, the “listener” not only does not develop aggression and irritation, but, on the contrary, becomes interested in the conversation. In order to talk, it is not necessary to describe your troubles and look for a way out of the situation; it is enough to chat about something insignificant, share dry facts and unnecessary data.
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Social adaptation with the help of friends
Women's friendship is the easiest way to build relationships in society, to assert oneself and gain development. Due to the fact that physiologically boys and girls develop differently, only in the company of others like themselves can a girl change and become better. What a friend understands will remain incomprehensible and devoid of logic for a male friend. In communication, the main thing is emotional presentation and its sensitive perception. This is the main difference between female and male relationships. The goal of the first is to talk without meaning, the second is to find solutions to the problem and a logical explanation for its occurrence.
The other side of communication between women is scandals, intrigues and conversations in which gossip is born. However, this is inherent only in adolescence during the formation of personality. Representatives of the fair half may well be friends after quarrels and betrayals, protecting the sincerity of empathy, especially if the circle of acquaintances of each of them is not wide.
Friendship, warm feelings and love between women
Such a connection is similar to the one that occurs between a guy and a girl with mutual sympathy, however, without sexual overtones. Girlfriends do not get married and do not build a family, but they show interest in each other, provide respect and support, help, and joint leisure. Sometimes the manifestation of these qualities is much brighter and more colorful than in a strong married couple. Meetings may be scheduled less frequently, but they leave a more vivid impression.
The challenges and benefits of friendship
Being female leaves some imprint on girls' friendships. What difficulties do they face:
- Excessive need for communication. If women are friends, they are ready to talk for hours about everything and correspond. Sometimes this interferes with the work process, if these girls are colleagues, or with their personal lives, since not all husbands are satisfied with the endless chatter of their significant other with their girlfriends.
- Gossip. No matter how friends women are, they always have the need to gossip. Many people hold it back, but, unfortunately, not everyone succeeds. Girls easily spill the secrets of their friends, which leads to quarrels and misunderstandings.
- Envy. It is more difficult for women to rejoice at the success of their friends on all fronts. For example, they ask themselves: “Why didn’t I marry this rich handsome man? How am I worse than my friend? Envy is directly related to competition. It is important for girls to ensure their personal happiness, and they experience failures on this front very painfully.
Such problems can alienate women from each other. But not everyone experiences them, and the positive aspects of female friendship are quite significant. What are the advantages of such a partnership:
- Mental comfort. With a friend you can cry, laugh, and just have a heart-to-heart talk. Spiritual unity among women is very developed, especially if their friendship lasts from childhood. A best friend is a real psychotherapist you can trust.
- Have a nice time. Who else could you go shopping with or go to the spa with, if not your best friend? You can completely relax, chat and indulge in pleasure only with her. Sharing joys together is very pleasant.
- Recoil. Girls easily give their warmth in exchange for friendship. “You give me, I give you” is their motto. You can be sure that you will receive support and be listened to if you yourself know how to be friends. Similarity of views and emotional unity promote cohesion even more. In addition, the female psyche will not allow a friend to remain indifferent if trouble happens to you. She will definitely begin to empathize, immersing herself in your problems and emotions.
This is the kind of female friendship - complex and multifaceted, but nothing can replace it. A friend sometimes becomes closer than a sister, mother, or even a beloved man. So the answer to the question of whether there is female friendship in the world can be answered with a clear “Yes!” But to maintain true friendship, you need to know the nuances of such relationships.
Why there is no true female friendship
The hypothesis that women cannot be friends was invented by men who never question their relationships with each other. The stronger sex calmly assesses the situation and is able to smooth out troubles, while girls cannot forgive even a minor offense.
The first thing that stands between friends is envy. This parameter manifests itself quite sharply, but does not interfere with warm, intimate conversations. However, if a difficult situation arises, you should not expect help from an envious person.
A true close relationship between women presupposes knowledge of all the little things, while men may not be aware of the age and problems of a friend’s children, his troubles in life, communicating only on topics of interest to both. This kind of distance helps guys save their image and face. There is always vulnerability in front of a loved one - after all, she knows all your weaknesses and all your secrets, which can ultimately lead to a blow and serious discord.
From the above, it is clear that it is much easier for men to maintain long-term friendships, they make friends more closely and meaningfully, but if we talk about a critical situation, then a friend will come to the rescue faster than a bosom buddy.
What prevents the fair half from building friendly relationships?
In every communication, at least subconsciously, there is envy, against the background of personal unfulfillment. This leads to disagreements, discussions behind one’s back, and the desire to prove one’s superiority.
When the end comes
Sometimes relationships end for unclear reasons. Some “outgrow” the partnership, others become fixated on their problems, begin to compare, envy, and against this background even hate. In this case, the girl needs to try to let her ex-girlfriend go without accusing her of ingratitude or contempt.
Adaptation in society with the help of friends
Thanks to female friendship, it is much easier to establish relationships in society, assert oneself and begin to develop. Since male and female development differ significantly, therefore, in the company of similar girls, it is much easier to change. After all, a friend will be able to understand a lot when a guy friend considers an action or information devoid of logic.
When communicating, the main thing is to have emotional intimacy with a sensitive perception of it. This connection is the main difference between male friendship and female friendship. Men prefer to look for solutions to problems and explain and explain everything logically, while women’s conversations sometimes do not have a definite meaning.
The other side of female relationships includes scandals, intriguing conversations containing a lot of gossip. Typically, such communication is strongly expressed precisely in adolescence, when the personality is still being formed.
Girls can easily maintain a friendly relationship with a friend, even after a strong quarrel or betrayal. Girls who do not have many acquaintances try especially hard to maintain this kind of connection.
Why true female friendship, despite all disagreements, happens
If you know how to properly distribute friendly energy, not be too intrusive, provide support when it’s really needed, and not trespass on each other’s personal space, you can build a long-lasting and strong relationship.
Rules
It is possible to lose a friend if you do not comply with a basic list of requirements:
- Try to choose as a companion a person who is similar in social status in society, intelligence and family status. The smaller the gap in different areas of life, the easier it is for friends to understand each other.
- Personal problems that arise at work or at home with your husband - try to solve them yourself, without consulting a close friend. Otherwise, you risk dragging her into unnecessary squabbles, further complicating the situation.
- Be sure to protect your personal space and set aside time for relaxation without strangers.
- Don't give her all the information indiscriminately. She can tell it to third parties without bad thoughts and thereby damage your reputation.
- The grounds for close relationships are equality and mutual assistance. If one of the girls always has time to help or meet, and the other is busy at the right time, this is already parasitism.
- There are also unspoken rules: if a person is absent, you should not judge him, discuss him, or express criticism. If she finds out, there will be a quarrel and the end of trusted ties.
And most importantly, appreciate those who know how to sincerely rejoice at their achievements!
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Competition3
Another reason why women cannot be friends is competition. From childhood, girls develop a certain trait of being better. than your desk neighbor or your mother’s friend’s daughter.
Already in adulthood, a woman develops a female instinct, when she a priori must be the best in order to be close to a brave male. Which, in turn, will provide her with safety and procreation.
Competition can disappear only at the moment when friends or just acquaintances have achieved a certain social status, material wealth, both got married successfully and live happily, they are completely satisfied with life. In this case, they simply have nothing to compete with, and sincere friendship can last quite a long time.
But even at a young age, when personal development is actively underway, close friends can often butt heads, as they try to reach certain heights and prove their success to a friend. How often can you hear stories about two friends vying for the same man? After all, their social circle, as a rule, is common. And when the guy made his choice in favor of one of his girlfriends, not a trace of friendship remained. Was she there at all?
How to build strong relationships
If you can treat a friend without subtext or prejudice, without demanding anything from her and allowing her to remain herself, you will most likely be able to build strong and long-term friendships. The main rules of close relationship:
- Identify a person with similar interests and goals.
- Do not demand anything from him in return and do not spare anything for him.
- Trust and be sincere.
- Learn to live without envy and enjoy your friend’s happy events.
- Carefully protect your privacy and space, not allowing your time to be occupied only by your friend.
- Stop complaining all the time. Strong communication does not depend on “whining” alone.
- Accept the personality as it is, without trying to impose your current view;
You shouldn't keep in touch just out of respect for the past. In your time, you were able to give a person everything that was expected of you. Going to meetings “out of politeness” means wasting your time on something you don’t like. You need to be able to change people in time to those who will open up new opportunities for you. A woman needs to go to sports, develop hidden talents, take part in trainings, take care of her appearance, and not drown in obligations to a loved one.
an old friend is better than two new ones
Do you think all people know how to be friends? Surely not. After all, friendship is something reliable, cementing human relationships, something that can be trusted. A friend is a person you can rely on, someone you can count on in moments of joy and sorrow, someone who will not let you down. And there are not many such people. As a rule, one or two are the most faithful and reliable.
But there are people who don’t need friendship. Because not everyone cares about friendship, not everyone needs reliable, loyal friends - many have other values ! A lot of people (more specifically, 24%) choose the “right” people as friends. They understand the word “friendship” as a mutually beneficial relationship.
Such people invite only the “necessary” people, the profitable ones, to home celebrations, birthdays and anniversaries: this is the director, this is the deputy director, this is the head of such and such a department, and this is such and such a celebrity. You won’t find childhood bosom friends here - they are far in the past, unless, of course, they have grown to be profitable, have received a high social status and, accordingly, the opportunity to be useful in some way.
This is neither good nor bad, it’s just how people with an innate skin vector are designed - it’s their nature to look for benefits in everything, in everything, even in relationships. Only such relationships cannot be classified as friendly, since when the benefits disappear, the “friendship” itself quickly ends.
So what does the ability to be friends depend on?
From the presence of an anal vector in your innate vector set. Only anal people, people of tradition, guardians of family foundations and home, know a lot about friendship. Since ancient primitive cave times, their species role has been to protect women and children in caves and teach teenage boys war and hunting. To do all this well, the anal man is given an undifferentiated libido, i.e. directed both at women and (inhibited, suppressed) at teenage boys. Thus, friendship between anal men is libidinal in nature, based on attraction. There is no other vector like this. In addition, such properties of the anal vector as devotion and fidelity also make its carriers reliable friends.
ANAL MEN - they are those who know how to make friends and those who need it. Only and exclusively anal men! Note, MEN! Not WOMEN!
How to save
Relationships are more serious work than what you do every day in the office. Various crises and misunderstandings can lead to the breakdown of relationships. To prevent this from happening, you should build a correct behavioral line.
- It is impossible to communicate without mutual exchange of secrets. The desire to share feelings or, conversely, to hear details overwhelms the beautiful half of humanity. However, every lady can have her own little secrets. At the same time, you need to be able to keep secrets if everyone has entrusted them to you.
- You should not start a relationship with her ex - this can become a real test for a friend, especially if the breakup was painful.
- Competition and rivalry are excluded. In the struggle for primacy, people become real enemies.
- Moving to another city, vacationing abroad or a business trip is not a reason to stop communicating. It is important to pay attention to a text message, a photograph, an interesting post, or a call. Perhaps she needs help now.
Why are we friends?2
By what criteria do we like a certain type of person? Perhaps by type, interests, lifestyle, views? Women do this too, choosing friends based on common interests - for example, swimming, drawing, the gym, mothers on maternity leave, mutual acquaintances, special courses, etc. At the same time, if suddenly one of the friends’ hobbies changes, the common interests disappear.
Thus, it turns out that, in principle, the friends had nothing in common. What kind of friendship can we talk about in this case? Psychologists say that the strongest friendships between women can arise during their student years. After all, it is at this time that the personality is fully formed and each of the friends is open to something new.
Failures in studies, sessions, and relationships with classmates are experienced together. Women who began their acquaintance at this time, as a rule, can carry sincere friendship through many years.
By their nature, girls are more emotional than representatives of the stronger half of humanity. This is why women are more likely to become emotionally attached to their own kind. The essence of this relationship is mutual giving and the need for attention, which is given in full by both parties. Even in childhood, they make contact with other girls subconsciously and do not try to find benefits.
With age, personality is formed, and personal interests come to the fore. Since the sense of responsibility has not yet been developed, many girls are ready to neglect communication and friendship in order to receive a certain benefit. Based on this scheme, a stereotype emerged that there is no friendship between women.
Seven colors of the rainbow of relationships between girlfriends
Friendship between girls can arise at any age and under any circumstances, but relationships develop in different ways, and, unfortunately, not always rosy. In life we come across different people. Some of them can become our true friends, and some teach us lessons about false friendship. How to figure this out? The psychology of relationships between girlfriends determines some common features.
1) Friend for communication
Each of us has a friend with whom we can go somewhere from time to time and chat about something. But friendship does not become close, we do not miss each other, do not worry about each other, do not share secrets. There is not yet the necessary degree of trust. This feeling will either develop over time, or it will not exist at all.
2) Friend by coincidence
Such friendship arises when we find ourselves in a certain place for a while. For example, during vacation, vacation, business trip or while studying in another city. Under such circumstances, we have new friends with whom we can go through life together, or we will separate at the end of our time together. Friendship can be both strong and superficial, we can share problems and secrets, and be like water. Over time, time takes us to different parts of the world, we still correspond and call each other for some time, but then, unfortunately, all relationships dry up.
3) Friend-rival
And there are such dark sides to female friendship. They appear in cases where a guy appears in a circle of friends that they both like, or one of the girls dates him. The situation is explosive! Sometimes you have to choose: either a girlfriend or a boyfriend. The only positive solution is to introduce your friend to another guy she likes. Otherwise, rivalry will destroy friendship.
4) Envious friend
Sometimes among our friends there is such a girl. If we are good at something, or we are lucky in something, then a friend, unfortunately, does not rejoice at our successes, but tries to belittle them. “Just think,” “nothing special,” “nothing worked out for you,” and other similar exclamations disappoint us and deprive us of self-confidence. And even if everything was “ok” between you before, you should think about whether you need such a friend.
5) Gossip Girlfriend
This option in relationships between friends is also possible and no less unpleasant than the above. Imagine that a secret that you entrusted to only one person became known to many. Terrible condition! It becomes clear that the friendship has come to an end. But this is also your fault - before you trust, you should get to know the person well. Learn a lesson for yourself.
6) Manipulative girlfriend
If in a relationship between friends one of them is the leader, then this is probably not a bad thing. However, it happens that one friend suppresses another with her authority, conceit, and narcissism. And this is no longer friendship, but ordinary manipulation. You should notice this behavior of your friend in time so as not to become dependent and get out of this situation in time. Have your own opinion, be able to insist on your own, and maybe everything will work out. Otherwise, we ourselves have a mustache...
7) Girlfriend guardian angel
Finally we have reached the finish line. That is, we have reached real, unselfish, true friendship. Often in life you meet different friends, but only the one (or those, in rare cases) who are real remains forever. How to determine this? Yes, each of us knows how, especially since the answer is in the title: guardian angel. Therefore, take care and love such a friend, if you have one. And if not yet, then try to find it. To do this, become both a true friend and a true friend.
You should also remember that you need to work on any relationship, improve it, learn to take with love and give with love. And then everything will be fine with you!
Friendship with a person of the opposite sex
This type of relationship has always been a big question. What is friendship between a man and a woman, and is it possible?
Like any other friendship, it exists, and it begins quite banally:
- in childhood;
- in a common company;
- due to a similar range of interests;
- in the work team.
Of course, such friendly relationships are full of peculiarities, but based on the standard norms of this type of interaction, they are quite acceptable.
If a hundred years ago such a phenomenon as friendship between a man and a woman was difficult to imagine, due to the fact that these two sexes intersected only within the framework of marital relationships, then in the modern world this type of relationship is something taken for granted. This is largely due to the significantly changed status of women. She works, has a wide range of interests, and leads an active social life.
People also began to marry at a more mature age, which gave them the right to choose their partner more carefully, and, consequently, to acquire extensive friendships with people of the opposite sex.
Friendly relationships between a man and a woman have their own characteristics based on the totality of gender differences. Such friendship is simpler and more unpretentious than female friendship, which is due to the fact that men are not as touchy and emotional as women. At the same time, it is more sensual than a man’s, which is determined by the subtle psychological structure of a woman.
Also, any friendship is impossible without sympathy. A person will never get close or begin to communicate with someone who does not appeal to him. The same principle applies in this type of relationship. However, in addition to sympathy, in such friendship there is sexual attraction. Therefore, the ability to adjust your behavior towards a friend of the opposite sex will largely determine the success of this union.
Avoid such “friends”!
There are people with whom you cannot have close relationships.
It is important to recognize them immediately so as not to fall into an unhealthy relationship and suffer mental trauma.
Female friendship is a subtle concept. Therefore, carefully look at who you communicate with, how honest the people around you are, and whether you can rely on them.
Characteristics of a pseudo-girlfriend:
- She is not happy when you feel good. Your successes offend her. Are you talking about a promotion at work, about a happy meeting with the guy of your dreams, and the face of your interlocutor is covered with darkness? Leave such people without regret. Such a friend will only carry negativity and in everything good that you have, she will look for the bad sides. Do you need it?
- Insincere compliments. Have you ever felt offended by a compliment? Listen to the words your friend tells you. Maybe you often lose your sense of self-esteem when you are skillfully praised, but without sincerity or kindness? If you feel hidden negativity, it is better to leave such a relationship. They won't lead to anything good.
- Disrespect for your time and space. Because of your friend, you change plans every now and then - she becomes the leader of your life. If she disrupts meetings, is late, shows irresponsibility - she is selfish and does not think about you at all. You cannot rely on such a person.
- Rivalry. As soon as you dye your hair, your friend runs to the hairdresser to get highlights just as good. Did your husband give you a fur coat? In response, you learn that a friend has had the same fur coat hanging in her wardrobe for 5 years. Further - everything is in the same spirit. Such a person will keep track of your successes and strive, at all costs, to overcome you.
Breaking a friendship for no reason
It's a shame when best friends leave simply because life turns out that way. The reason is usually a long separation - moving, changing jobs, getting married to another country. In such cases, if the mental and emotional connection is lost, it is worth letting the person go. If attempts to restore the relationship fail, abandon them, no matter how difficult it is.
Doubts
So why did the opinion arise that such a wonderful phenomenon as friendship between a woman and a woman does not exist?
The reason for this, again, is the peculiarities of the psychotype of the fair sex. An overly emotional nature often leads to unjustified quarrels, which are difficult to resolve or lead to a complete cessation of communication.
Also, many girls are prone to cunning and intrigue. It’s not for nothing that the female work collective is called “snake” behind its back. And this does not mean that everyone without exception is like that. Just some social and, possibly, sexual dissatisfaction entails such base manifestations as envy, a tendency to intrigue and scandals.
That’s why it’s so important, when joining a new women’s team, to keep your distance at first and not trust sensitive secrets.
Also, friendship between a woman and a woman may suffer due to the fact that friends liked one young man. Women are not inclined to give in to a potential partner; this is inherent in the level of primitive instincts. Only truly strong friendship can withstand such a test.
