Habit is like a rope. We weave threads into it every day and ultimately cannot break it. Horace Mann , educator (1796-1859)
“Acquire healthy lifestyle habits and regular exercise” is one of the most common responses from students to the question about goals in the initial questionnaire of our program. We ourselves know and are proud that our graduates call new habits their most desired result. Therefore, we could not ignore this topic and propose together to understand what habits are and how they work.
Why does the habit of smoking or chewing a pencil require no additional effort, but the habit of doing morning workouts is so difficult to inculcate and requires additional nourishment? How to make massage with a brush become a regular procedure, and not happen from time to time? Why is it easy for us to part with some habits, while others remain with us for life, even if we want to get rid of them?
Hundreds of scientists and psychologists are trying to find answers to these simple and complex questions; dozens of books and many scientific papers have been written. It would seem that a magical way to instill a habit at the snap of a finger should be found. However, there is no magic pill and it will not be included in this article either.
But we will try to analyze the most interesting, in our opinion, books and studies and show you several paths along which you can move in the difficult but interesting business of instilling new habits. There is no simple answer, however, you must admit that your mothers also taught you to eat with a spoon and brush your teeth in less than a week.
What is a habit?
The human brain is constantly at work - minute after minute it controls many movements, thoughts, efforts. But the body is a very smart system, so it takes advantage of the fact that many actions are repeated and it is possible to optimize the process and cut corners.
Habit is a way of the brain to save energy, which has been passed down to humans since ancient times. The brain consumes a disproportionately large amount of energy for an organ of its size, and it is beneficial for the body to save it - to generalize repetitive actions and develop autonomous habits. The neocortex, the part of the brain closest to the cranium that is responsible for our ability to think, consumes the most energy. Over time, the brain gives us the opportunity not to do this, optimizing its work.
| A habit is formed in the process of repeatedly performing an action until the stage when performing this action no longer causes difficulties of a volitional or cognitive nature. |
A habit is nothing more than the formation in the brain structures of stable nerve connections, characterized by an increased readiness for functioning. In other words, these are automatic programs in our brain that are ready to turn on and be executed at the right moment with virtually no participation from ourselves.
Difficulties on the way to a new life
From the experience of psychologists observing the internal struggle of people striving for their ideal, we can conclude that half of all episodes of failures and “breakdowns” of patients occur due to the indirect fault of “public opinion.”
The social environment of a person, in which he previously felt comfortable, is an established cell that has its own norms of behavior and way of thinking of its participants. An individual for whom this shell becomes small has every chance of feeling universal condemnation and returning to past habits for fear of being left alone.
Experts recommend that an individual who expands the boundaries of his consciousness and is committed to change gradually introduce into his social circle people who have achieved mental balance or are close to the ideal to which the person strives. Over time, his need for people from his “former life” will completely disappear and the temptation to “fall into old habits” will disappear by itself.
How are habits formed?
Recent research sheds light on the fact that in addition to neural connections, habit formation is also associated with processes at the molecular level.
Habits exist in many possible areas of brain function, from ongoing physiological and neurological mechanisms to mental activity and daily routine. Some daily habits can keep you healthy and vibrant for many years, while others can lead to serious illness and increased risk of mortality. In this article, we will focus on habits, which refer to a set of regular actions that form the basis for each person to maintain health and good shape.
The peculiarity of the process of habit formation is that the brain selects for “automation” not only useful or desirable habits (brushing our teeth, exercising regularly or choosing healthy foods), but also useless and even “harmful” habits, that is, unwanted for us ( drink tea with sweets, light a cigarette after a nervous situation, or end the work week with a glass of wine).
The main criterion for choosing the brain to form a new habit is the so-called “reward” - the feeling that arises when performing any action . It could be relaxation, euphoria, or just a good mood, an internal feeling of receiving a reward.
| Any habit is formed by a so-called “loop”, which consists of three stages - a starting signal, an action pattern and a reward . |
Let's look at a couple of simple examples:
1. You eat cake at your favorite coffee shop after every stressful day at work.
Here the starting signal is stress, the action pattern is to go to a coffee shop and order something sweet, the reward is relaxation and a good mood. And then the realization comes to you that you ate a cake that, in general, you didn’t plan to eat today. The noose is tied.
2. You do a morning workout every day.
The starting signal is, for example, a glass of water or an alarm, the action pattern is to put on sneakers, lay out the mat and do a workout, the reward is euphoria, vigor, a surge of strength.
Looking at these examples, it is obvious that habits arise quite simply - just repeat the “loop” a certain number of times, and the brain records the action as habitual , the next time without forcing you to think and make energy-consuming decisions from its point of view.
| How many times you will have to repeat the entire process in order to consolidate the habit depends on the habit itself, the reward and your individual characteristics. |
We come to the most important thing - how to actually instill “good” habits and how to wean yourself off “bad” ones.
More than one generation of scientists and psychologists has been studying this issue, and, unfortunately, no single magic algorithm has been found. You've probably heard that a habit can be established in 21 days by repeating the same thing. Psychologist Jeremy Dean debunks this common myth in his book Making Habits, Breaking Habits
It turns out that the original research on this issue was conducted in 1960 - plastic surgeon Maxwell Maltz published a book called “Psycho-Cybernetics” , in which, among other things, he shared the observation that patients usually needed 21 days to come to terms with the fact of losing a limb or with changes in appearance after surgery. From this he concluded that this time was probably enough for people to get used to anything.
Obviously, learning to drink a glass of water in the morning and getting used to losing a leg are slightly different situations. Yes, and we are all different. For some, it will take 21 days to change a habit, for others 7, and for others – all 70.
| In one study, scientists found that on average, a person needs 66 days to develop a habit, that is, about two months, but this is not true for everyone. If we move from the average to the individual results, for different people in the study group, the time it took to acquire a habit ranged from 18 to 254 days. |
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Methods for working with habits
Let's consider what techniques and influences the researchers of this topic offer us as the most effective.
The first documented studies related to habits began a very long time ago; the attention of scientists to the topic has increased since the middle of the last century, and at the moment it is not waning.
Research by Azrin and NunnIn a 1973 study, a group of people with nervous habits or tics (twisting their hair, biting their nails, etc.) were asked to perform so-called reverse or incompatible actions. Participants carefully observed and noticed the urge to perform another habitual action and replaced it with something else. For example, for nervous tics it was the tension of certain muscles (for example, the shoulders are isometrically lowered down while the shoulders twitch upward), for those who bite nails, the opposite effect was to pick up any object and squeeze it for a minute. The results showed that one day of such therapy is enough to create a lasting result in getting rid of habits. Thus, it was possible to break established ties and replace them with new ones . |
Bowen's concept of change
Much later, another scientist, priest W. Bowen, armed with the findings of doctors, created his own method of getting rid of bad habits in 21 days, which he outlined in the book “A World Without Complaints,” and this also became a sensation. In the version of the self-improvement technique he described, a person was asked to tie a purple thread on his wrist and wear it without removing it for 3 weeks. During this time, the subject had to control his consciousness, avoiding negative words and emotions, and if there was a “mistake,” the thread was changed to the other hand, and the countdown began again.
The theologian proved that a person who managed to maintain character and hold the thread on one wrist for a full period of time changed for the better and felt much lighter and freer. This marked the beginning of the development of a special “Bowen List”, the points of which a person was obliged to apply to himself in 21 days and as a result get not only relief from negative emotions, but also a lot of useful habits.
Working with Loop Links
If we talk about daily habits that cannot be classified as nervous or pathological, then in this case the approach is similar. Charles Duhig , author of “The Power of Habit” and “A Guide to Changing Habits,” suggests working directly with the links of the habit “loop.”
1. Pinpoint the habit loop you want to work on. This may not be as easy as it seems. The author gives an example of how he worked on the habit of going to the cafeteria every day and grabbing a chocolate chip cookie.
2. Experiment with rewards. Without haste or pressure, just try different actions instead of your usual behavior. In the cafe example, as soon as at a certain time the author noticed that he was drawn to get up and go to the cafe for cookies, he consistently tried to replace the usual action with a walk around the building, take other sweets or, in general, other dishes, went into the office chat with a colleague.
The number of attempts may vary, the main thing is to find what you really need. It turned out that Charles simply needed communication, so visiting a colleague for a couple of minutes of conversation completely satisfied his need without going to a cafe.
3. Isolate the start signal. The start signal is what motivates you to go and do a habitual action. Research shows that most starting cues fall into one of the following categories: place, time, emotional state, other people, immediately preceding action.
Accordingly, every time you feel that the habit mechanism is starting to start, ask 5 questions :
- Where are you?
- What time is it now?
- What is your emotional state?
- Who else is around?
- What action immediately preceded the start of the “loop”?
Answer them each time for as long as it takes, if necessary, write down the answers. By comparing the answers over the period, you will find repeating aspects, which means you will be able to draw a conclusion about the starting signal.
4. Make a plan. If you have successfully completed the first three steps, you understand what the habit is, what the starting signal is, what the reward is and what the action is. Now you need to choose which part of the “loop” you will work on and make a plan to realize your intentions.
The author’s plan for breaking the habit of eating chocolate chip cookies at lunch was as follows: “at 3:30 pm every day, I go to my colleague’s office and talk for 10 minutes.”
| When the same action is repeated over and over again, the brain begins to build a new habit. Some take more time, some less, but with the proper persistence you will be able to “blaze a new path” in the functioning of the brain. |
Journaling
All your achievements and victories need to be written down in a diary specially created for this purpose, where you can paste both your photographs that motivate you to move forward, and positive pictures from magazines. In addition to your own impressions, your daily diary entry should contain the following 5 points with a detailed report on each:
“What important thing did I do today?” “Who did I help today?”
“What new have I learned?” “Can I reproach myself for anything?” “What conclusions have I drawn today?”
By answering the questions asked, a person will be able to better understand his actions and learn to learn lessons from each situation.
Small steps method
Entrepreneur, co-founder of Hello Code and author of the Buffer blog Belle Beth Cooper suggests starting with small steps that yield small but tangible victories. This approach provides that same feeling of reward, which our brain relies on when choosing which action to make a habit.
1. Start small. You shouldn’t immediately expect global changes from yourself. If you decide to read more, start with 5 pages a day; if you decide to brush your teeth with dental floss, start with 2 teeth, gradually adding one at a time.
2. Focus on one habit. A typical mistake that leads to failure is to take everything at once, for example, start a healthy lifestyle on Monday. However, if you outline a plan for gradually introducing habits into your life, the likelihood of its successful implementation increases many times over.
3. Remove barriers. Create the most convenient conditions for comfortable implementation of habits. If you want to start running in the morning, prepare fresh uniforms, sneakers and a player with your favorite music in the evening; if you want to get rid of the habit of eating sweets with coffee, do not buy sweets for home and replace coffee with other drinks.
4. Create chains of habits. Building new habits on top of existing ones is easier than starting them from scratch. How it works? For example, every morning you are used to drinking a cup of coffee - plan to read 10 pages of a book during this time, brush your teeth every morning - add to this a little exercise right in the bathroom, and so on.
Role of the prefrontal cortex
Judson Brewer ResearchPsychiatrist and addiction expert Judson Brewer conducted research on how to break bad habits based on one simple technique: being mindful and curious . Study participants who wanted to quit smoking were asked, when the urge to smoke occurred, to begin observing how they felt—and to describe any sensations, emotions, and thoughts. Instead of following the lead of habit, people became researchers and experimenters - and this is already a pleasant feeling and a new incentive-reward. When carefully observing themselves while smoking, most participants admitted that it was a rather unpleasant activity - cigarettes taste bad, the feeling in the mouth is not pleasant, and stress, in fact, does not go away. Thus, the participants moved from knowledge to enlightenment - from understanding that smoking is harmful to literally physically feeling it, and the spell of smoking was broken. It ceased to fascinate. |
The prefrontal cortex, the youngest part of the brain in evolutionary terms, understands on an intellectual level that smoking is bad and tries its best to help us change behavior, help us quit smoking, stop us from eating a second, third or fourth cookie. This is called "cognitive control." We use understanding to control behavior. Unfortunately, it's also the first part of the brain to shut down when we're nervous, which isn't particularly beneficial for us .
| When the prefrontal cortex shuts down, we succumb to our old habits, which is why it's so important that they lose their appeal. |
Observing habits helps you understand them on a deeper level, becoming aware of them enough to stop forcing yourself to hold back or curb your behavior. Make it so that they simply stop attracting us.
This is what awareness is based on: to clearly understand what happens when we are caught up in a habit, to lose attraction on an intuitive level, and at the stage of lack of attraction, it is easy to let go of the habit.
Step-by-step technique for getting rid of excess
The method of how to develop a habit in 21 days and give up everything unnecessary during this time is designed in such a way that a person has time to gain confidence in the need for important changes. However, the path to complete “cure” takes three months, throughout which you should continue to practice and not give yourself any slack.
In order to correctly distribute your forces, it is advisable to familiarize yourself with and put into practice the following algorithm for starting to implement your plans:
- First, on one large sheet of paper, the shortcomings that a person sees in himself and the good human qualities that could eliminate these shortcomings are written out in two columns. This list can already be considered a direct guide to action.
- Below the list you should large-scale, in a few phrases, describe your desired ideal state (complete harmony, internal magnetism, etc.)
- It is necessary to find a stimulus that can serve as a permanently attractive bait on the way to the goal. At each stage of habit formation (21 days, 40 and 90) you can find new, more and more daring motivations.
- You need to create a checklist of your achievements or keep a diary (how to fill it out is described above).
A beginner does not need to be upset if, when starting to improve himself, he cannot see big goals and achievements ahead of him. When a person remains in a “sleeping” state for a long time, it is generally very difficult for him to realize himself as a person with inexhaustible potential. Even if your first dreams don't go beyond a new dress, as you move forward and gain confidence, motivation will also take on larger forms.
Why do old habits come back?
We are often asked a reasonable question: why do some graduates of the program return to old habits after completing the course, and why do new ones not work? After all, 9 weeks, according to many researchers, is quite a sufficient period for the brain to record some actions as habits.
However, if you remember the article, forming a new habit requires care and analysis. This is important not only at the formation stage, but also at the consolidation stage. If we return to the habit loop, in this case the newly acquired habits were not rated highly enough. The reward to which the brain reacts so vividly has not been formulated .
| It is reward that is the main criterion for choosing a habit by the brain. If there is no reward, you can repeat the action as many times as you like, but it is unlikely to become a habit; rather, it will become more and more annoying each time. |
At the same time, work on oneself is often started according to a completely different scenario, which may be good for other tasks, but in our business of acquiring habits it does not work.
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a person sets a goal (to lose weight, gain six-pack belly fat, learn to eat healthy), clenches his will into a fist and plunges into the world of recommendations - “it is necessary, therefore it is necessary,” “beauty requires sacrifice.” Tasteless alien food, hard workouts, contrast showers until you catch a cold. Many of you were nodding your head or smiling now.
Have you noticed what is missing in the design? That's right, there is no pleasure from the process, which means there is no reward, the habit is not formed. As a result, it turns out that many actions within 9 weeks are carried out thanks to volitional effort, and as soon as the external factor in the form of chat and curators disappears, habits return - the same ones that have not lost their attractiveness and have been waiting in the wings all this time.
| Look for the positive in every action - experiment and choose delicious dishes, enjoyable activities, and you will want to do it again and again. |
No matter what stage of the process of acquiring healthy habits you are currently at, stop for a moment, listen to yourself, try to understand what attracts you and does not attract you in old habits, what you enjoy in the new ones you are working on.
Obviously, changing some habits can be a difficult process. However, the techniques that we have discussed are a worthy basis on which you can rely at the start. Sometimes changes take a long time. Sometimes they require repeated experimentation and failure. But once you realize how a habit works, find the trigger that causes it, the action itself and the reward for it - you receive the power that will certainly help you change what you would like.
Author: Anna Nesterova, strength sports coach, curator of the Ideal Body School #sekta
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Final Tips
- It’s not always possible to develop a habit the first time. Don't despair if you fail even several times in a row. Try again and again, and a bonus to a useful skill will be the development of perseverance and perseverance in achieving your goal.
- Thematic literature is a powerful motivating factor - read books about habits, use tricks and tricks, and over time you will develop an optimal scheme for mastering the habit.
- It’s easier to improve yourself in a team - look for like-minded people who won’t let you break down at a difficult moment.
- Self-confidence and the “habit of winning” come only with overcoming difficulties. Start with simple skills; the knowledge that you have already been able to develop useful habits will give you confidence in your abilities.
