Topics to talk with a friend and what not to talk about?

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Do you want to talk to a guy or girl, but are you afraid that the conversation won't go well? This happens to many.

Imagine that you are communicating with some person. Suddenly there comes an awkward pause and you realize that you don’t need to be silent, but no thoughts come to your mind at all, as if your brain stops working. Only stupid ideas come to mind that you are ashamed to voice out loud.

The silence between you continues as you begin to panic, your head goes blank and you can barely remember your own name.

Naturally, you will want to prevent this situation. Well, we have good news for you. In this article you will find as many as 50 conversation topics that will help restart the conversation.

This list will come in handy before your first date or before going to a party.

Some topics may seem simple to you, but they are the ones that help when you find yourself in a stressful situation. There is no need to talk about aliens and philosophy to continue the conversation.

What should you talk about with your friend?

To pour out their souls, in the West they traditionally go to a specialist in the field of psychology.
We are not yet so accustomed to pouring out our souls to a stranger (But in vain!). Sometimes it’s easier for us to share our problems and experiences with a loved one. Most often, this is a friend. Any expert in the field of human relations will tell you that it is vital for women to communicate with their friends. This helps to strengthen her feminine energy, from which a man draws inspiration. Friendship should be supported and developed in every possible way. Another question is that it is not always clear what topics should be discussed so that the relationship is not only pleasant, but also trusting.

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Friendship between a man and a woman?

Love, relationships, friendship, respect

Romance, friendship and relationships are not interesting, perhaps, only to a rotten stump. “Stop, stop, stop! What a mess? I have a business blog!” - you say. OK. And if the topics are:

“How my friend and I opened a tire shop and what came of it,”
"5 reasons not to open a business with friends"
“My experience of doing business with a relative: all the pros and cons,”
“Lost my wife and found my own business.”

The topic of relationships between people is always in demand. Be it regular office flirting or an unexpected life-changing meeting.

Replenishing energy from communication with a friend

To achieve female happiness, we need to fill our emotional vessel. We need the energy of warmth, beauty and comfort. Once you have managed to fill yourself with light from within, you can feel like a woman who is able to give pleasant emotions to your spouse, children, and other people. We are capable of achieving great success as soon as we are filled with feminine energy.

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What is women's happiness?

In the process of communicating with friends, this type of energy is generated. This is why it is necessary to communicate with other women. What does this mean? You need to prepare, both mentally and physically, for the arrival of your guest. It’s best to wear beautiful, feminine clothes, various jewelry, do the right makeup, and dance in the halo of your favorite perfume sprinkled into the air. Don't forget about the delicious treat. Comfort, emotional warmth and beauty will help in creating a special space.

It is important that communication is warm and pleasant. It is best to talk about something good and beautiful. This will help you enjoy a pleasant aftertaste after the meeting is over. Do everything possible to make your conversations a source of female happiness and strength.

Health, wellness, weight loss, workout

I shoved this into one section because the topics are essentially similar. People play sports for health reasons. They lose weight through training, improve their shape, get treatment for something, and so on.

There are a lot of headlines here:

"I'm losing weight in 60 days"
“How did my weight training end?”
“Marathon: bench press 100 kg in 100 days”,
“How I lost 15 kg and cured gastritis”,
"7 Healthy Breakfast Recipes You Haven't Tried Yet."

The topic of health is important, perhaps, for everyone. Yes, sometimes people neglect this and burn their bodies at every opportunity, but sooner or later they will start reading your blog articles. Write about health, and there will be a reader.

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With a new friend

It is often impossible to find common topics of conversation if you meet with a woman you recently met. There is still no knowledge of what your friend is interested in, or how exactly to arouse her interest. If you build communication correctly, you can make the relationship more trusting and long-term.

A topic related to pets is a great conversation starter. If your interlocutor has a cat or dog, you can ask about the care details and the history of its appearance. Be prepared to be shown photographs. This will significantly improve the mood of you and your new friend, which will contribute to a quick rapprochement.

It is important to demonstrate sincere interest in the girl you want to become friends with. Don't be afraid to be sincere in order to find out as much as possible about your new acquaintance.

intimate play

If your level of trust allows, then you can discuss more frank issues. What questions can you ask a girl about sex?

Vibrant passion or slow pleasure?
How do you feel about anal/oral sex?
What is absolutely unacceptable in sex?
Where would you like to try it?
What gives her the greatest pleasure?
What is your wildest sexual fantasy?
How do you feel about role-playing games?

Questions to start with:

About the family: exactly how many brothers and sisters there are, how old they are, what their occupation is, whether they have pets;
About hobbies: what genre of music is her favorite, what films she likes best, what she likes to do in her free time, likes home-cooked food or catering establishments.
About the city of residence: how long have you lived here, what are your favorite places?

People are most interested in themselves

Don't be afraid to ask as many questions as possible. The answers must be truly detailed, that is, open questions are expected. A person will be able to open up, when you find out about him, he will feel good.

There is no need to talk only about what interests you. Remember that people will be grateful during a conversation whose topic is close to them. You can pay attention to the clothes of your interlocutor and note her excellent taste. It is possible that you met at work or in some institution, then it will be much easier to find topics for conversation.

If you find that certain topics cause unpleasant emotions (See Negative Motivation), pauses occur in the conversation, it is best to smoothly move on to a completely different issue. We do not know what memories a person has associated with a particular topic. It is best to be tactful so as not to injure your interlocutor. It is important to have empathy (See Emotional Intelligence), insight, so as not to hurt a woman’s feelings in any way.

Remember that communication should be psychologically comfortable for both of you. Do not forget that this factor will serve as an excellent basis for future friendship. It doesn’t cost you anything to think about what kind of attitude you would like to receive towards yourself in order to demonstrate it to your new acquaintance.

With my best friend

It is much easier to communicate with your best friend. It’s still easy for you to find the topics of conversation, all the secrets. This is truly wonderful, but sometimes there may not be enough to talk about.

The best friend for many is a truly dear person. Communication must fill both with positive emotions and light. Just imagine how you come to a house where every visit can imbue you with something good that makes you want to live, create and work.

It is best to choose appropriate topics for conversation. They should touch something pleasant, beautiful and light. Forget about gossip about people you know, discussing topics that relate to politics, religion, problems.

Eg:

Secrets of maintaining beauty: discuss new cosmetics, some useful masks, for example, made from natural products, fruits;
Cooking: tell us about a recipe for a truly delicious dessert that you can prepare;
The art you do: needlework, puzzles, embroidery, knitting, collecting;
Sports: yoga, different types of fitness, exercise equipment;
Home design: new directions, cosmetic renovations.

It is important to exchange positive feminine energy. You shouldn't perceive your best friend as a competitor. In fact, you are both on the same side. It is best to give sincere compliments and rejoice in each other’s successes.

Education, languages, sciences, training

It would be nice to know English, right? Yes. If you don’t know him, he definitely had thoughts about training. What if it comes in handy? After all, this topic is fascinating, practical and educational.

For example, Pavel Durov watched Zuckerberg’s lecture on time, so what now? “VKontakte” has taken root in our brains, and Pavel is already sending telegrams to everyone. If he didn’t know English, how would we live without new stickers with a fox, a cat and a jellyfish?

In short, language learning and any other education is always interesting to most developing people.

Make people effective and the reader will come for you, even if you go to Mars.

Married girlfriend and young mother

Often, after marriage, women become immersed in family problems and forget about communicating with friends. Thus, distance occurs, as a result of which the woman is confined within four walls. The world is limited only by communication with your spouse and small child. I have absolutely no time for myself.

It is important to understand that a woman is busy with her family during this period. It is worth realizing that this period in life will pass as soon as the child grows up a little.

Secular topics are of little interest to a woman. Most likely, you will have to listen to concerns related to the child and related problems. You need to be patient, listen and support your friend. You are a friend to her, a truly close person. Only she can tell you everything, to share this joy, to complain about the difficulties that exist.

It is important to feel the happiness that a friend shares. Believe me, it cannot be compared with anything. Even if the topic of children is not yet interesting, it is best to listen, talk, and show how interested you are.

Over time, you should gradually direct conversations towards general topics that previously interested you. Don't think that your friend has changed radically. After some period, it will be possible to achieve balance in affairs, which will allow the friendship to continue much more actively than before.

You should be aware that with the birth of a baby, a woman is able to completely escape from her usual life. It is you who will become a source of useful and interesting information to which she will listen. It is worth turning to such topics of conversation as:

Mutual acquaintances and friends;
Trends in the world of fashion and beauty;
A film that was released, an exhibition of a fashionable artist;
A new dish to try;
Opening a restaurant or cafe;
A new book worth reading.

Your friend will really be grateful to you. Such information will help her not to completely fall out of the world around her and not to move away from the company.

It is possible that your friend will not be able to meet with you often due to worries related to the child and everyday issues. You can always keep in touch by phone or on social networks.

A friend who has no mutual acquaintances

You can always start a conversation with a compliment to get the conversation started. It is worth paying attention to the girl’s jewelry and her clothes. No one can resist praise regarding her appearance and original hairstyle. If you note that a girl has a rather interesting tattoo, you can become much closer friends with her.

You can choose the most neutral topics for conversation:

sport;
news from the world of cinema;
fashion trends;
beauty, mask recipes.

You can talk about everything you see right now. It is necessary to further act on the situation:

during a walk – architecture, changes in the urban environment;
in a cafe - about food, interior features;
at a party - about what you like here, what drinks, food.

During a long-awaited meeting with a friend

Imagine that you had a girlfriend, but time passed, a spouse appeared, children, a new job, a new situation. After some time, a completely new meeting took place.

You can choose the following conversation topics:

Memories that relate to past adventures. You can mention relationships, common interests, or just laugh. It is the past that will help you relax in order to subsequently find common ground that may exist in the present.
Women's themes. Some time has already passed, but you still remain women, as a result of which you should not forget about fashion and beauty. Believe me, this topic will always be interesting. You can talk about your family and children, show photographs of loved ones. You can always discuss a new dish, the opening of a fitness room.
Favorite places and hobbies. You can go to your favorite restaurant, have a cup of coffee, and take a little break from your routine. Remember how you spent time flirting with a waiter who quit a long time ago.

On a walk

Starting a conversation while walking is both easier and more difficult than communicating on the phone or through social networks. A girl may simply feel shy when she is next to a guy.

The advantages of such communication are that you can see how the interlocutor reacts to a particular question. This will allow you to quickly adapt to him and choose the right direction for the conversation.

While you are walking, you have a unique opportunity to show that you are a smart interlocutor who knows how to listen. In a short walk you can learn a lot about a guy’s past and find out his plans for the future. Don't miss this chance.

Topics to talk to a guy while walking around the city:

Does he like his chosen profession?
Where would he like to go?
Can he call himself a romantic?
What he was like as a child.
The family's negative attitude toward his choice of girlfriend may influence his opinion.
He knows how to give in in an argument.
He forgives misdeeds and quarrels or never compromises.
How he feels about women who take the initiative.
How he copes with difficulties.
I wish he could fix something in his life.
He often gets involved in conflicts.
Were there any real enemies or rivals in his life?
He believes that the ends justify the means.
What attracts him to people?
What dreams does he plan to turn into reality in the near future?
What did he spend the first money he earned on?
What does he dream of doing?
What does he mean by the word love?
Does he believe in love at first sight?
I could live with one person my whole life.

Conversation with a friend after a quarrel

If there is a desire to return the relationship, you need to think about how to restore trust.

First you need to take the first step: call, write SMS or on social networks. You can come up with absolutely any reason: ask for advice, share news, find out something about a new friend. You can always come in for tea with your favorite treat.
There is no need to remind about the quarrel and its reasons: it is better to pretend that everything is in perfect order.

During the meeting, it will be extremely awkward at first. It is possible that you have said a lot of bad things to each other. It is better to give a compliment, ask about your success in school or work, in order to melt the ice that was observed in the relationship. You can remember past pleasant moments that concerned communication. You can always voice an old common joke.

It is best to avoid the following topics of conversation:

Gossip that concerns mutual friends;
Topics likely to cause serious controversy;
A subject that has caused a quarrel in the recent past;
Disadvantages of a friend and her partner.

To preserve relationships, you should not prove yourself right, foaming at the mouth. It is possible that you are indeed right, but your friend’s trust will be lost for a long time. Is this what you really want?

What to talk about with a pen pal?

Most often, people in the modern world meet through correspondence. It can be noted that the topics for conversation are not much different from those when we meet in person. On social networks you can exchange music, photos, discuss news, and send posts of interest.

You can appreciate the benefits of online communication if friends are too far from each other, in particular, in another city or country. Some people first communicate via the Internet, only to meet in real life after some time.

Topics to talk about with your boyfriend

Topics for conversation with your boyfriend
When the relationship has already been long and you want to know even more about your loved one, you can talk about almost anything on your next date.

How are things in the family?
Who does he imagine himself to be in 10/15/20 years?
Where does he want to live in the future?
What is he talking about?
Would you like to have a pet? Which one?
What is the most important thing in life for him?
The most vivid impression in life.
What is he afraid of? Do you have phobias?

This will help you get to know each other better. But talking about former relationships can be unpleasant for both interlocutors. One may feel due to such questions; the second will be unpleasant to find out how strong the feelings were.

Conclusions about topics of communication with friends

Do not forget that friendship with a friend must be mutually beneficial. It is important that both women receive positive emotions. You can't just give or receive. It is important to remember to take initiative and plan communication. Do not underestimate the power of compliments, gifts, support in difficult moments.
Show consideration to your friend. You should take an active interest in her life, problems and concerns. You need to listen to the answer and show courtesy. If your friend is in a sad mood, you should first support her, and then have fun and talk about light-hearted topics.
When talking with men, it is necessary to avoid negative characteristics at all costs. Remember that the main task of communication is to replenish feminine energy. No negativity that can only devastate.
You should not gossip so as not to destroy female friendship. Gossipers can easily talk about their friends and loved ones behind their backs.
You cannot wash dirty linen in public by speaking badly about your spouse, children, or mother-in-law. No outsider should know that not everything is perfect in the family. This aspect will attract a lot more negativity into your life. “Good” advice only serves to increase discontent and add fuel to the fire. It's worth taking care of your family.
It is better not to keep talking about your spouses. You should not undermine respect and love for your closest people.
You shouldn't try to talk about a topic on which you have noticeably opposing views. You can always express your opinion, but you should not consider yourself opponents who are on a political show. It is better to demonstrate respect for each other.
It is important to avoid health topics, as there is nothing pleasant in the conversation. Any random advice can be harmful.
Topics of finance, religion and politics should not be touched upon as well. They are often associated with problems and can cause disagreements.
It is important to be neutral towards your friend's spouse. You shouldn't cause jealousy.
If you are not happy while communicating with your friend, it is best to end the relationship. The pleasure of friendship should be mutual.

On the first date

A first date is an exciting event, because it is during a live dialogue that a person decides whether to continue communication. Relationships can end before they even begin. A first date is like walking through a minefield. Any careless phrase, vulgarity or joke can ruin the atmosphere and create awkwardness in the conversation.

It is better to start a conversation from afar, and it is better to move on to more personal topics gradually. No one will bare their soul to a stranger, so do not try to extract information from him using pincers.

Topics for conversation with a guy:

What is his relationship with his family?
What attracts him to you?
What qualities does he value in girls, and what character traits does he not like?
He often gives advice to others.
Where does he like to go on weekends?
Where was he born and how did he spend his childhood?
I would like to become a celebrity.
What brings him happiness.
Does he believe in astrology?
What does he think about love?
What talents does he have?
He had significant achievements in school.
Does he like sports?
What would he do if he found himself in a woman's body?
Where would he go if he became invisible?
Does he justify white lies?
How do you feel about people who don’t know how to lose?
Where does he dream to go on vacation?
Which country does he love most and why?
If he were offered to take up any activity he liked, what would he choose?

The last minutes before parting will tell you whether the date went well or not. If a guy without vulgarities expresses a desire to kiss you, it means he is interested in you. All that remains is to prepare topics for conversation on the second date.

Subject

It is imperative to prepare for a conversation.
You must think in advance how the conversation will be conducted. At least in general terms. And in difficult cases - and have a conversation. In the process of preparation, when you play out difficult situations, it may turn out that you need additional information, and you will get it before the conversation and will not look stupid in the eyes of your employee. Common mistake

preparation is
an unknown topic
.

Do you like being helpless and not knowing what they will do to you?

An unknown topic is often also a method of manipulation

and psychological influence, designed to deprive the interlocutor of arguments and basis in the conversation. I'm lucky - I have a great team that is very open and doesn't like manipulation. But there are different situations.

They used to like to approach me with the words: “Sasha, we need to talk.” I broke out of the schedule, agreed to talk, but it turned out that the person needed to discuss something about practice, which would happen in a few months. A topic I had absolutely nothing to do with. Why did we waste our time? By the way, I managed to turn that situation around to my advantage - I realized that there was a gap in one of the processes, but I think the general meaning is clear.

The second option is when they say this, and then start some kind of difficult conversation, which actually requires you to bring up old agreements with this person (which you kind of should always remember, because this is the only person you have, right? in his opinion - Yes). And you've already been taken by surprise. And if the manipulator is competent, then it is unknown where the conversation will lead you, and you may be considered either unable to make decisions, or make the wrong decisions; the employee may even just want to see your reaction to his words and draw some far-reaching conclusions.

Fortunately, these scenarios are infrequent, but it also happens that the employee really needed to talk to you. But, because you didn’t know the topic, then the conversation dragged on, so you had to interrupt, or you needed additional information that you could have asked for or found if you knew what would be discussed in advance.

Find out the topic

. Just ask: “Tell me what you want to talk about so that I understand what the conversation will require?” Don’t brush off an employee with the words: “What is this topic, otherwise I don’t have time for you?” You are the leader. You are available and open. You are a leader, not a person sitting somewhere high, inaccessible even to those with whom you work. The era of big, inaccessible big shots is over. To manage successfully, you need to successfully interact, negotiate and be open.

By the way, I had employees who liked to name one topic, and then came with another. Moreover, from their impatience and general behavior it was clear that they were going to raise the second one. This is also manipulation. If you feel uncomfortable

Now to discuss a new topic that has been slipped in,
don’t be afraid to say
: “Sorry, you didn’t voice this topic, so you’re not ready to talk about it. Let's discuss it a little later." After one or two times, employees stop intentionally doing this.

Why is it important to have conversations with a guy?

Conversations are the engine of relationships. Without speech, we would not be able to establish contact, and only through personal conversations, through pleasant communication alone with a new guy or with a loved one, can we truly get to know each other. Then joint experience will be added to the methods of rapprochement, but at first everything will be decided by conversations. It is important to understand whether you like the way your chosen one speaks and whether you like his stories. It is through conversations that you find out his views, find something in common and something that is not at all like you.

Before a conversation, it can be difficult to draw any conclusions about a person and whether you would want to communicate with him. And vice versa: a conversation can radically change the initial impression. This is how guys who don't seem attractive at first can charm you within a few minutes of conversation. And interesting-looking men turn out to be not the kind of people with whom it is pleasant and interesting to talk.

A simple conversation while walking is one of the most convenient ways to obtain information. Both verbally and nonverbally. Express emotions and feelings to a person and receive the same from him, establish contact.

Being the main form of communication, conversation has become a convenient tool for anything:

receiving pleasant sensations,
new information,
refuting or confirming conjectures,
manipulations in relationships and changing them.

For romantic relationships, this is the simplest and therefore mandatory way to develop the following qualities:

familiarity and intimacy
show interest,
do nicely
take care,
satisfy each other's needs.

What not to talk about

The list of taboo topics is not that long. Surely you can add your own to it, but over time, the boundaries in the relationship become more flexible. This makes it possible to discuss those things that I didn’t want to touch on at first.

At first, avoid talking about:

Money. Who earns how much, who is in what financial situation now
Former ones. There is no point in bringing up the past when the current young man is sitting next to you.
Flaws. And there will be time for criticism, but it must be constructive and timely. And, ideally, served softly and with care.
Vulgarities. Bed topics and obscene jokes may also appear, but over time, when the relationship has already been established
Personal. Ask a person about his character and habits, but don’t try to get into his head and don’t force him to twist his soul.

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What topics do you like to talk about with your loved ones?
Do you discuss the same things with them as you do with your friends?
Do you tolerate silence calmly, or do you try to fill the awkward pause with at least something?

Answer in the comments