Spontaneity is a psychological resource that provides access to deep energy sources within our psyche; it is a characteristic of processes caused not by external influences, but by internal reasons; initiative, the ability to actively act under the influence of internal motivations. In this article, we'll look at why spontaneity is so important.
Spontaneity presupposes a person’s ability to be himself, to feel in touch with himself, to express himself naturally in different life situations. The concept of “spontaneity” comes from Lat. sponte – free will. Spontaneity is always associated with creativity, intuition, play, the ability to improvise in new situations when what is happening is born before our eyes. Spontaneity is the highest expression of a person's individuality.
Spontaneity
Spontaneity has to be discovered, or better said, rediscovered, because when you were a child you were spontaneous. You have lost your spontaneity because too much of the artificial has been implanted in you - discipline, morality, virtue, character. You have learned to play many roles; so you have forgotten how to just be yourself.
Spontaneity is joy, it is play, it is dance, it is anticipation and exciting uncertainty. This is love, creativity, inspiration, pleasure from daily actions. Creativity is one of the great practices of spontaneity. There are many techniques for developing spontaneity. One of the most famous researchers of spontaneity, Moreno, described independent forms of expression of spontaneity: dramatic form (revival of already completed actions, thoughts, feelings, words); creative form (creation of new ideas, behavior, works, etc.); original spontaneity (giving a new form to an existing one); adequate response (correctly chosen behavior in terms of time, form, direction and intensity).
Spontaneity is a resource
Alas, spontaneity, like sleep, is a resource that does not accumulate. But basic Spontaneity does not accumulate and persist; it appears to be spent “here and now”, giving way to subsequent manifestations. Spontaneity can find a way out or be suppressed. The goal of training is the release of spontaneity and its simultaneous reasonable integration into the holistic structure of human life.
If there is barely enough spontaneity to complete a task, but there is no longer enough for joy, the person is serious, collected, tense. For some people this happens sometimes, and for some all the time, and the tasks of the latter are not always more global; often they simply do not know how to relax, enjoy life and exist in harmony with the world around them. Lack of spontaneity means almost no enjoyment.
Option 3. Answer part of the question
As a rule, when people ask a difficult question, they put all their pain into it. And it rarely fits into a short “Why did this happen?” Accordingly, in one question you will hear many theses, conjectures, assumptions at once... and sometimes several questions at once.
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Choose one - the one that is easiest for you to answer. And answer it clearly and consistently. The remaining parts of the question can either be left out of brackets altogether, or short, superficial answers can be given to them.
Spontaneity is not impulsiveness
At the same time, one should not confuse impulsiveness and spontaneity, these are completely different things! The internal impulse away from what is necessary is called impulsiveness. Spontaneity is an internal activity that enriches patterned behavior. Those. If you are furious and suddenly break a pencil that you were twirling in your hands, then this is impulsiveness. And if you start drawing with this pencil without knowing what you are drawing, this is spontaneity.
Spontaneity, in fact, is when all this also finds its optimal form in this world, in a given situation and at a given moment in time. It may also turn out that at a given moment in time and in a given situation, the most optimal and most spontaneous thing would be to be patient and wait for a more opportune moment (just not for long, of course). True spontaneity is always voluntary, which is what distinguishes it from involuntary impulsiveness.
Exercise
The main way to enter a spontaneous state is as follows: Unfocus your gaze. Mentally create a drumbeat in your head - bom-bo-bo-bom, bom-bo-bo-bom, bom-bo-bo-bom. Make a mental drumbeat in your head. Imagine hammers that help - they tap. You need to train so that you can walk, move, talk, think in this state.
In many sports and wrestling - be it tennis, boxing or whatever - punching is built on automaticity. On the basis of automaticity, when a person performs actions without thinking.
What is the difference between a driver and a person who simply knows how to change gears? The driver changes gears, depresses the clutch, and turns the steering wheel without thinking. He looks at the road signs, at the markings, at the speedometer - and drives the car. A good driver doesn’t look anywhere at all, but sees everything. That is, the deeper the trans, the better the driver.
And this applies to any business you take up. The deeper you go into trance, the better you will do this.
© Vadim Shlakhter
Spontaneity is the topic of this article, it is important to use spontaneity in life, spontaneity comes from the soul.
Spontaneity is as important in life as anything else. Without it, life becomes boring, insipid, and uninteresting. People are used to living according to plan. That's how we were taught. Planned five-year plans in the USSR. Fulfill the plan, exceed it. But the plan of life is the sphere of the mind, and spontaneity comes from the soul. And here it is just as important ,
as in everything else. Balance must be present in all areas of a person’s life, especially between the mind and soul.
Your level of spontaneity
You can roughly find out your level of spontaneity using this scale. The Spontaneity Scale measures an individual's ability to spontaneously and directly express their feelings. A high score on this scale does not mean a lack of ability for thoughtful, purposeful actions; it only indicates the possibility of another, not calculated in advance, way of behavior, that the subject is not afraid to behave naturally and relaxed, to demonstrate his emotions to others.
Spontaneity Scale:
- I feel no remorse when I am angry with those I love.
- I almost never have the need to find a justification for my actions that I perform simply because I want it.
- I don't always try to avoid grief.
- I often make spontaneous decisions.
- I'm never afraid to be myself.
- It often happens that expressing your feelings is more important than thinking about the situation.
- I trust the decisions I make spontaneously.
- Perhaps I can say that I live with a feeling of happiness.
- I often show my affection for a person, regardless of whether it is mutual.
- I almost always feel empowered to do what I think is right, regardless of the consequences.
Option 6. Answer sincerely
Let me make a reservation right away: in the previous answers, I do not encourage you to deceive. But the “sincerity” option assumes that you demonstrate not only knowledge, but also feelings. First of all, feelings. And, of course, it’s better not to play with sincerity!
One day, employees of a small organization complained to their manager about low salaries.
“Friends, it really hurts me,” their boss replied. — We all know what the average salary is in our market segment now. You know and I know that your salary is twice as high as the market average. Both you and I know: over the past three years, I have tried three times at the head office to increase your salary, the last time just a couple of months ago. I will not go. I’m just not going to go ask you for more money now. Not because I don’t appreciate you! I appreciate! But it physically hurts me because instead of “thank you,” I receive indignation: “Why do we rarely get salary increases?”
Not a single person objected to his boss. Everyone understood: they had gone too far and he was right. People felt guilty and grateful. All other harsh questions disappeared by themselves.
Why do you need to develop spontaneity?
Why does modern man need developed spontaneity? He knows the route from work to home and from home to the bakery, he lives mechanically, because he lives comfortably and in a civilized manner... He does not need to hide from a tiger or winter in the tundra.
However, the peace and comfort of modern urban civilization are deceptive and deadly. They lull a person to sleep, turning him into a mediocre (uncreative) and unviable (not spontaneous) layman, in whom all skills atrophy from such a life, except the ability to consume.
Thanks to spontaneity, a person is able to react flexibly in new, non-standard situations, think and feel in the “frame”, not hide behind various “social masks”, stereotypically relying on the “crutches” of learned skills, phrases, imitating authorities, concepts of success and happiness.
It is important that spontaneity is a basic resource, “prepersonal” of the psyche. Only after spontaneity and the restoration of the locus of control should one begin to restore self-esteem.
Energy
Spontaneity is a source of energy, it is the ability to act in conditions of uncertainty and effectively cope with stress. Spontaneous people's lives are many times brighter, more beautiful and filled with inspiration and love.
Remember that spontaneity is a source of vital energy that cannot be forced, coerced, or subdued, which comes on its own and goes away on its own. There are no rules or protocols on how to strengthen it. If you can still work in a protocol manner with awareness, then you have to speak very vaguely about spontaneity. Look at the children: they are full of energy and enthusiasm, spontaneous! With age, spontaneity becomes less and less, because duty displaces pleasure, morality displaces feelings, and reason displaces sensations, because resources are not pumped and are gradually frustrated.
Adaptation and spontaneity
Spontaneity is a quality that helps our survival and adaptation. Spontaneity is a willingness to change. Remember that you are only as alive as you love change? In modern man, the sense of spontaneity is much less developed than any other important function of the central nervous system. Hence the complete failure of modern man when confronted with the unexpected, and most often this reaction of evil. Violations of spontaneity lead to the development of neuroses and loss of energy. If a person always behaves approximately the same way, be it “life in a rut,” or constant shocking behavior passed off as spontaneity, this is automatism.
Ease and play
Developing spontaneity enables a person to ultimately become more vibrant, confident, expressive and light-hearted. An accomplished and successful person must be creative, creative and spontaneous. Every person needs spontaneity, everyone who would like to feel confident and happy in their personal and professional lives, everyone who would like to go beyond the usual, established patterns of behavior and try themselves in unusual roles, who would like to develop the ability to express themselves brightly and expressively. express yourself, enjoy the energy of improvisation, self-expression. Spontaneity, of course, is needed by those who would like to achieve some heights in this life. Achieving spontaneity is always associated with a feeling of great pleasure, a joyful feeling of life.
Developing spontaneity is not the path to perfection in the usual sense, it is the path to naturalness. Moreover, the desire to achieve ultimate perfection increases the obstacles to achieving free spontaneity.
Relationship
Spontaneity is also very important for those who would like to improve their partnerships. Often women and men are dissatisfied with their behavior in relationships with the opposite sex or do not understand why their partner refused them, not realizing that their behavior is stereotypical, regardless of whether the person is outwardly very active and talkative, or, on the contrary, closed and conservative.
Examples of spontaneous behavior
Some guy burst into one man’s apartment. He was holding a firearm in his hand and shouting that, according to his information, the owner of the apartment was sleeping with his wife.
In such an extreme situation, most people would begin to make excuses, and it would end sadly: the attacker was “on edge” and could well shoot.
The owner of the apartment looked this guy in the eyes, spread his hands and said: “Who didn’t sleep with her?!” The attacker fell into a stupor, dropped the gun and began to rub tears down his cheeks. The owner picked up the pistol, hid it and began to console his “guest”, explaining that everything was not so scary, that they were comrades in misfortune, and so on... In the end, the jealous husband calmed down and left. Who was the woman in question, whether there was betrayal on her part, and if so, with this man or with another - remained behind the scenes.
The owner of the apartment was saved by his immediate reaction and spontaneous behavior. The guy who burst into him could shoot in response to any remark - only the Control Program of the Universal Matrix knows whether he would have shot or not. But it was precisely one phrase spoken that changed the situation, turned out to be key for him - he dropped the gun and burst into tears.
A person with a normal head cannot find such an answer in a split second. To do this, you need to do a re-flashing in your head.
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In the center of St. Petersburg, a man fills up his car. Suddenly a luxury car pulls up, with four men sitting in it, each with their faces in full view of the windshield. One “person” lowers the window and declares that it is much more important for them to quickly refuel. And that this man must move away quickly, otherwise they will come out and perform plastic surgery on him without anesthesia. The man turns, takes the hose and starts pouring gasoline onto the roof of this luxury car - a decent amount is poured out until the dispatcher finally realizes that it needs to be turned off. He then takes out a Zipo lighter, which won't go out in the wind, and strikes a fire. And he asks the question: “Well, have you left, dead people?” Four men sit in a luxury car, sweat rolling down their pale faces. Fifteen liters of gasoline had already been filled into the car. At the gas station there are fifty tons of gasoline. And a man stands with a lighter in his hand. The man laughs, puts away his lighter, gets into his car and drives away.
Years pass. Not long ago, a man completely by chance meets those characters in a sports club. They say hello, and then he asks why they didn’t find him using his car number and didn’t show him anything. One of the characters says: “ What can you charge a man waving a lighter in front of a puddle of gasoline at a gas station!?
You can kill him, but, firstly, no one will pay for it, and secondly, this is a completely pointless activity.”
